Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance. -- Brian Tracy

Not sure where to begin?  Review the list below and highlight what will help you get realigned.

1. Are you complete with the past?
An incompletion is anything you pay attention to or give thought to that needs to be different than it is right now.

The Past represents what you did, didn't do, should have done, or did wrong or inadequately.  In other words, it remains with you in some way. You are not your past, yet you may be living as if you are.

Action Idea: Make a list of people and projects that you're incomplete with.  I've created a RAM Dump exercise to help you with this. Once you've completed your RAM Dump (dumping all the sticky notes from your brain onto paper), you have four options to make it complete:  Do, Defer, Delegate, Dump.

2. Do you make choices based on your values?
As you strengthen your personal foundation, there will be more time, energy, and space in your
life. You'll be able to express yourself by setting goals based on your true values (i.e., what's most important to you).

Action: Identify your core values. Make choices based on those values. Let go of goals that you cannot link to your values.

3. Are you living in integrity?
To be your best, make choices that are in alignment with your values and priorities. You are responsible for the decisions you make and the actions you do or don' t take.

Action Idea: Make a list of the ways in which you are currently out of integrity with yourself, and get to the source of each item to resolve it fully.  Let go of gremlin language ("I should...I gotta... have to" ) and replace it with "I choose to."

4. Are your needs being met?
What are your non-negotiable needs (aside from food, shelter, and clothing)?  Do you need acknowledgement, connection with nature, time alone, safety, aesthetics, financial security, routine, adventure?

Action Idea: Identify your non-negotiable needs and ask family and friends to help you meet and honor those needs

5. Do you have clear boundaries?
Boundaries are lines you establish around yourself to protect your heart, mind and soul from the unhealthy or damaging behavior of others.

Action Idea: Identify the things that people may no longer do or say around you or to you.  Educate others on how to respect your new boundaries.  Be clear about what you choose to do when others don' t respect your boundaries.

6. How high are your standards?
Standards are the behaviors and actions you're willing to hold yourself to. Examples:

• You grew up in a home that had to be kept spotless all the time.  Does it serve you to maintain the same standards -- perhaps at the expense of other values that are more important to you - now that you have your own home? 
• As a child, you were taught to clean your plate at every meal, whether you were hungry or not. Does that rule serve you and your health?

Action Idea: Let go of the standards you should have and make a list of the standards that you choose to live by.

7. What are you tolerating in your life right now?
What are you putting up with that you choose to do something about?  Have you been taught not to complain, get angry, or argue - even when it means jeopardizing your health or short-circuiting your passions?

Action Idea: Make a list of the things you are tolerating at home and work.  Make the request and/or take the actions to eliminate these tolerations from your daily personal and professional life.

8. Do you have a positive attitude?
Do you see the glass as half full or half empty? Attitude is the most important possession you have. Your attitude will determine your perception.  Perception is a result of all of the decisions you've made about your world. Thoughts create emotions, and emotions cause you to generate expectations and attitudes. For example, when you perceive someone as kind or unkind, your thoughts stimulate an emotion, which then becomes an attitudinal vibe that determines how you interact with others, and how they interact with you. (This is called self-fulfilling prophecy.)  People will forget what you said or even what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel. 

Action Ideas:

• Take the negative and find something positive about it. Be grateful for what you have right now.  Develop reserves of time, love, and resources.
• Remember this equation:  E (Event) + R (Response) = O (Outcome).  No matter what the event, you choose your response, which will affect the outcome.
• Each week have 3 written statements you need to hear.  Verbalize them 3x/day.
• When you are angry and need closure, rewrite the ending.

9. How strong is your support network?
Everyone needs to belong, to be loved, and to be supported.  It helps to have people who can share your life, dreams, and concerns with a level of intimacy once reserved for families. Do you have a healthy support network in your life presently, either with biological family or with a family you've created?

Action Idea:  Operate from choice rather than obligation.  Choose to share the more intimate aspects of your life with those who love and support you.  Actively seek out people whose company you enjoy. 

10. Are you clear about what you want?
If you don' t know where you' re going, any road will take you there. It' s important to be clear about what you want so you can develop a clear path to it.  Not sure where to begin? Mary Robinson Reynolds offers a wonderful model for your inner power to decide…

Action Idea: 
If you have trouble expressing what you want, try working with these statements:

• I am willing to know what I want.  When you make this statement of intention, your inner creative self will begin to receive information you may have previously rejected.  Keep a journal of what comes to you.
• I am willing to ask for what I want.  Now you can begin to formulate specific requests that will enable you to receive what you want.
• I am willing to receive exactly what I have asked for.  This can be applied to attracting a life partner, an improved relationship with your child, a new career or promotion, or a new house or car.
  

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